Have you ever felt insecure about yourself and can’t remember how or when your insecurities started?
My insecurities started in elementary school.
I was in the 5th grade, and my teacher took class photos, and posted them in front of the classroom. A student made a comment about how dark I was in the photo, and the entire class laughed.
The teasing continued all the way through senior year of high school. I was teased about my appearance, how I walked, who I dated…EVERYTHING.
I was so insecure about myself, the outfits I wore, what I said and how I said it, and how to approach people. I became an introvert and a hermit crab, only went out when I needed to and spoke when I was supposed to.
All of that ended when I started college. I wore whatever I wanted, I met people who became lifelong friends, and participated in extracurricular activities. I went from being home all the time to coming home late because I chose to hang out with friends.
I can admit that the insecurities are still there. It sometimes lead to periods of feeling like I wasn’t good enough, sadness, depression, self-sabotage, and self-doubt.
Instead of listening to those insecurities, I surrounded myself with people who cared more about my personality and less about my appearance, I listened to my body and what it wanted, and read positive affirmations when I feel down or reach out to someone. I also started working out, and shifted my focus to Healing with H’armani because I know those things makes me happy.
What I’ve started and continuing to learn is to focus on the positive than the negative, and to ALWAYS surround myself around people who give positive energy and personality because they will transfer and reflect on me everywhere I go.